If you bid and won the auction, and the seller won't cancel, you'll pretty much be left with an unpaid item strike. Two of those in a year is an ebay no-no. Or, if the item isn't prohibitively expensive, you can take the hit and pay for it, call it the cost of an education. As you haven't stated whether or not the auction has ended, you might opt for a bid retraction if it's still an active listing.
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